The story, which was published on Babe.net, was told from the perspective of an anonymous woman the website calls "Grace", and explains how she met Ansari followed by details from the disaster of a date she had with Ansari, from the ordering of the wine to the sexual encounter they shared later that night, September 25, 2017.
"I believe that I was taken advantage of by Aziz". She said she remembers feeling uncomfortable at how quickly things escalated. "In a second, his hand was on my breast". Now, his reputation is in tatters and his career threatened because of a lady who took her time saying "No".
"I stopped moving my lips and turned cold". Or it wouldn't have if Ansari weren't famous and she weren't now famous too, albeit under a moniker that refers to pray before dinner. "I know I was physically giving off cues that I wasn't interested", she said. "I didn't leave because I think I was stunned and shocked", she tells babe of why it took her a while to exit the situation.
In a screenshot of text messages allegedly sent between the two, Ansari texted Grace about their "fun" night. "You went to the press with a story of a bad date and you have potentially destroyed this man's career over it". It did not affect your workplace or your ability to get a job, so I have to ask you: What exactly was your beef?
When Ansari won a Golden Globe Award for his Netflix series "Master of None" earlier this month, the woman said she felt compelled to share her experience.
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The woman claimed Ansari told her he was going to grab a condom, just minutes after they began kissing. In one particularly horrifying account, HLN's Ashleigh Banfield went so far as to say that Grace was "belittling" the movement, calling her encounter with Aziz simply a "bad date". He expressed regret, noting he was "surprised and concerned" to get texts from Grace after their date in which she said she had been so uncomfortable because, in his mind, their evening together "by all indications was completely consensual". She adds that "whether Ansari didn't notice Grace's reticence or knowingly ignored it is impossible for her to say".
While consent is at the heart of nearly everything that has come up in the #MeToo movement (especially with Louis "I never showed a woman my d**k without asking first" CK), this is the first incident that has really painted a crystal clear picture about why enthusiastic consent is so incredibly necessary on both sides. Grace's account does not necessarily mean that Ansari is no longer the woke bae we thought he was, or that he's no longer qualified to be a dating expert.
An estimated 68 per cent of women in the United Kingdom experience sexual harassment in their lifetime (and a recent BBC survey found that half of British women have been sexually harassed at work or a place of study and 63 per cent didn't report it), so I am usually inclined to give women the benefit of the doubt.
However, Banfield, 50, said, "What you have done, in my opinion, is appalling".
Ansari, who has frequently referred to himself as a feminist, said the stories in the episode were all based on true events. "And then all the other women would look around and go, 'What the f - k?!'" Ansari told the Daily Beast in 2015. Especially in a world where many men can understand that they're never going to behave like Harvey Weinstein, while not seeing that behavior like Aziz's - behavior that they may be guilty of - is also problematic in a completely different way.